Emily's Page


March 16, 1947 – November 26, 1999


From Richard Homonoff:

There are many facets to Emily. She showed different sides of herself to different people.

As Judy Gould, Emily’s best and longest friend, remarked to me last night, when we tried to find Emily’s friends to tell them of this tragedy, we realized that we only knew the first names of many of these people. More…

From Judy Gould:

Emily was my oldest and dearest friend and I am crushed by this loss. From the eighth grade, whether living in the same city or a continent away, she was my friend. Whether I was in a crazed period OR she was suffering in some way, she was my friend. More…

From Judy Wands:

Emily and I met on an AYH ski trip. Our friendship began because I like a window seat and she preferred the aisle. By the time we reached Vermont, Emily knew me very well -- I think she used her interviewing skills. She must have talked me into skiing with her the next day because I remember watching as she took the beginner lesson. I was impressed that she didn't fall; she had told me it was her first time cross-country skiing. More…

From Fran Bainbridge:

When I think of Emily, the first thing I will always remember is her one of a kind greeting: "Hi, it’s Emily" as though it could be anyone else, as though I could mistake that perfect voice – so full of wonder and anticipation. Everything was possible. Yes everything. More…

From Jolee and Mark Zola:

I was just reminiscing to myself about all of my memories of Emily from the time we all lived together in California until now. I remembered this old Toyota she used to drive in California and I could see her in my mind's eye bent under the hood working the choke by hand while I cranked the ignition. As I remember, that was the only way you could start that car. But then we all had clunkers like that in those days. More…

From Steve Wattenmaker, April 16, 2003:

Emily was working in a converted World War II Army barracks at Ft. Sam Houston in San Antonio in the fall of 1971. She had moved to San Antonio from Boston with a friend who was interning at Bexar County Hospital. The two of them lived in kind of a rustic cabin, as Emily described it, miles outside of town. They had to remember to shake out their boots each morning to get rid of the scorpions. Emily had been hired as a civilian Army employee to help start a treatment program for soldiers coming back from Vietnam addicted to heroin. I also was assigned to the program as a draftee Army medic. More…

From Cindy Christiansen, Dec. 9, 2000:

I have many things that are daily reminders of Emily and that make me continue to feel close to her. More…

From Richard Nasser:

Your heartfelt thoughts about Emily had the effect of making me feel her loss more keenly than I otherwise would have by simply making clear how interesting and alive she was, by depicting her personhood more robustly than I, sadly, had the opportunity to appreciate during her life. In this way, you allowed me to mourn her in a much deeper way.